a colored spectrum

sex on the table

watched The Royal Tetenbaum on tv last nite.
it's a satire of reality.
a father neglects his family for 18 years and now wants to make up for it.
he finds himself rejected by the family despite faking it ill.
his wife is in a new relationship.
his adopted daughter lives a messy life.
his son is a widower.
and his other son was in love with his adpoted daughter.

the movie was funny but touching.
it touch on issues such as drug abuse, self denial, disillusion, monetary greed etc.
pretty much a thinker. contrary to being simply a comedy.
it ends with the Dad dying of heart attack in the arms of the son who hated him.

made me think much more about my family.
how will i handle if my Dad suddenly died?
will i be filled with anguish and regrets that i never got to spend enough time loving him?
my Mum met with an traffic accident 6 years ago.
i nearly lost her. it was a rude awakening.

haven't we taken our family for granted?
we come home daily knowing that they will be there to recieve us.
we take it for granted that our parents don't go out of jobs, that we alwiz have a car, we alwiz can pay our bills and have extra to shop or dine. we never expect the unexpected.
i take my Grandma for granted to a large extent.
i expect my bath-water ready at 8.30am and my breakfasy packed by 9am daily.
i never took the initiative to make breakfast for her on the other hand.
neither have i had the guts to think how will i handle the news of her death.
it's a very harsh reality. maybe it's time i start being nicer and warmer to my family.

i cut my hair. realized it's too short for beauty!!! *horrified expression*
it makes my face too wide... hair dresser cut it too wispy at the sides.
now i look 'funny'. therefore, i am not gonna meet Jared these couple of weeks.
don't want him to laugh at me =/
he's staying in camp anyway. air men training. good luck baby!

cool. NTU revamped itself.
teamed up with NAFA. offering a art-media-creativity sch.
also biomedical engineering to come. exciting choices.
unlike NUS. so stale and dull. the bureaucracy itself is an anal pain.
NUS is also becoming a CHINA town in it's own right.
left, right, center you turn. you'll run into those 'china' talents.
"ching chong ching chong" rings through the corridors. scary...
yes, they've infiltrated Arts as well. boo hoo.

i have a question generated while watching News 5 tonite.
they now have a Vilivar pill made of traditional chinese medicine.
supposed to aid penile erection and bedroom performance.
well... as much as it's supposed to work like one and make men feel 'energetic'.
does that mean that men will perform better in bed? aka satisfying women.
there's not much of a help if you can last longer but you don't know how to use your whip. right?
bedroom performance is not only about lasting longer and having more orgasms.
i believe strongly that it involves whole lot of emotional intimacy as well!
a process of loving. a process of mutual discovery. a process of mutual satisfying.
i finally now understand what it means by making love only gets spicy when you're old.
because it's only after so long then you've come to familiarize with what your loved one enjoys.

when was the last time any of us had men whispering sweet loving words into our ears?
or been hugged through the nite while sleeping, knowing we are in safe arms?
when was the last time we kissed his earlobes from behind?
or told him that he's still as sexy as we first met him years ago?
i don't know. i can't remember. probably's been a very long time...
it's sad. loving someone, appreciating someone is a daily affair.
calling each other, sms-ing caring msgs, being there for each other.
even words like "baby, i miss you" can be such a delight when recieved.
but in today's fast pace society, it seems like we even hardly have time to express our love...

dinner tables are often a site of conflict instead of the much-believed sit of family cohesion and solidarity. dinner tables are where parents question their children about their studies; drill them in table manners; squabble over what to eat etc. the atmosphere is tense and uncomfortable.
we all suppose that the family dinner should take place in a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere; we can be ourselves and resist social norms wrt eating behaviors; we can eat what we want etc. but how many times have we been caught in a spot whether to eat with the family due to all sorts of reasons? but there are also occasions that we enjoy going out eating as a family; Mum and maid can be relieved from their routine mundane cooking work; we can choose what we would like to have. therefore though the context is one of eating outside, the family continues to reinforce its cohesion and solidarity through the eat of eating together.

oh well. it's been a lazy weekend altogether.
i slept for 14 hours and yet i still feel lethargic.
my Dad says that i am just feeling lazy. hee. didn't do any work..
time to get energized for a new hectic week! *runs around the house*

posted by Veen @ 23:24